Here’s a question from Style Chic 360, a fellow Detroiter and thrifty gal.
When it comes to attracting men, women select the music. Men do the dancing. Click to tweet.
We women have plenty power, and you have to recognize that you, girlfriend, make the first move. But, not the “first move” that you might be thinking. Your first move is that of the subtlety. Though men may believe that they make the first move, studies show that 90% of the time women are the initiators.
By a simple smile or subtle eye contact, or by using both and “smizing” like this… you offer an invitation to which he can decide to respond or not. Your first initiation is simply an invitation that permits a man, or gives him the guts, to speak to you. That is, unless he’s playing a number’s game.
Your success with attracting men is dependent upon your ability to send courtship signals. It’s also dependent upon your ability to decode what’s being sent back to you.
Do this. Consider your body language.
First, give him the green light! Use your body language to signal to him that he has permission to approach you. Men don’t want to experience rejection; so, make it easier for him. For example, keep your space open. Depending on the situation, don’t sit at the table with your back turned to the people. Through body language, let him know you’re receptive to being approached.
Second, create sexual polarity by emphasizing the gender differences. Polarity is the state of having opposite or contradictory tendencies. So when a woman offers her GIFT, her feminine allure(tm), it attracts men because he comes into contact with an energy that is opposite of his own. Remember, it is femininity to which masculinity is first attracted! When you emphasize the gender difference and create polarity, you create fascination about yourself and become magnetic.
The study of physics teaches that polarity is a magnetic or electric field. I looked up the word “polarity” in the dictionary, and it notes that polarity “is the property that produces unequal effects in a body, similar to a magnet.”
There you have it!
Since humans only come in two species, male and female, we must RESPECT the differences in gender design. We’re similar, but we’re not same. Keeping this in mind is a woman’s key to successful interaction with men.
My last tip in attracting men is to distinguish feminine appearance vs. feminine manner.
Sure, you got the look; but, what we lack is the delicate and vulnerable nature often associated with femininity. So, you want to create situations that invite your feminine nature to get noticed.
Watch the video above for specific tactics, or click here and read this.
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