I’m almost certain that we can identify several aspects of our lives that worsen as we age. But, I’d like to highlight a few of things I can look forward to as I continue to grow up because these six things get better as we age.
Relationship with mother- My relationship with my mother was never poor to begin with, but it has truly blossomed and is getting better with age. She is truly my “bestie” as I share almost everything with her. I value and appreciate her, her advice, and her child-rearing practices. My mother is a “tough cookie,” and when I was younger, I surely could not appreciate her methods and sometimes, I still don’t. However, now that I’ve lived life just like she has (but not as much), and I realize that a bunch of things she warmed me about were for my benefit, rather than my punishment, despite how harsh it may have seemed.
Self-esteem- As we age, we begin to understand ourselves better, and other peoples’ perception does not really matter as much anymore. As we grow up, we learn to identify our strengths, which helps us to acknowledge not only what we value, but also how we add value. Adding value strengthens our self-esteem because we become an asset.
Wisdom- Wisdom is beautiful. I cannot emphasize how much more I am learning each day, not only from my experiences and mistakes, but also by observing others. I “believe that hot grease burns.” So, it doesn’t take much for me to identify good and poor habits, and chose from them wisely. Our experiences teaches us both good and bad, but the scripture teaches to “prove all things and hold fast to that which is good.”
My hair- After learning how to care for my hair properly. I am thrilled that my hair is thriving and it’s showing its potential. There’s so much information available surrounding Black women’s hair. After a few trial and errors, I have learned to accept that everything will not work for everyone.
Style- It took me a while to find my own style. There comes a point, (at least for me), where we stop looking at what other people are doing, and we start finding out what works for us. Don’t get me wrong, I tune into fashion sites like Chictopia and FashionBombDaily to get inspired, but I don’t allow it to eclipse my own style.
Men- …hopefully! I’m more interested in hearing your opinion on this one. Leave a comment below.
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I totally agree with all of the above after so many tumultuous relationships the one finally found me!!!
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I love this list…so true. As far as men getting better…I think it all depends on the man. Some grow up and realize the true worth of a woman and others may never get it. But I will say that I have been truely blessed with a husband who loves the Lord and therefore he is able to really love me. =)
Having a man who can lead with God’s grace is important to me.
I would absolutely have to agree with this post. Each and everything point I agree and relate. It makes aging more…comfortable and fabulous in my opinion.
i agree. about men? i have learned that like someone mentioned in a previous post that it just depends on the man. i have learned to not get offended when a man doesn’t think i am his cup of tea. i have learned to not invest too much too soon with a man. i have learned that when they show me who they are to believe them and make a decision accordingly. i have learned to always look good. i have learned that real love with a man starts when you too have a solid friendship (bff status). i have learned that your single until your married.
I especially agree with being single until one is married, and in general people are always cluing us in to who they are. Sometimes, we choose to believe, other times not so much.
Agreed! I too already had a pretty good relationship with my mother, but as I age we are getting closer and I’ve begin to admire her gracefulness, her wisdom an I hope to be a fraction of the woman she is.
I too hope I can be as good of a mother as mine.
I concur with the highlights above. Especially relationship with my mother. My Mother was one of the smartest people I’ve ever meant (had a PhD in life experience) She was a protector (as was my Father) a sister, prayer partner and an impeccable best friend. I too hope – as I age – that I’m a fraction of the person she was. At my Mother’s wake a childhood family friend – who’s an Atty now – described my Mother as: “the neighborhood Psychologist” and said “everyone knew they could talk to Mrs. Jane…”
Re: men I’ve determined that if a man really loves the Lord then he can’t and won’t treat you “any kind of way” and I firmly believe “what God has for me is for me” hence that stance allows me to be relaxed, poised, content and able – as the post above states – “to act accordingly”
Yes ma’am…say it!!!